16 Esther was taken to King Xerxes at the royal palace in early winter of the seventh year of his reign. 17 And the king loved Esther more than any of the other young women. He was so delighted with her that he set the royal crown on her head and declared her queen instead of Vashti. 18 To celebrate the occasion, he gave a great banquet in Esther’s honor for all his nobles and officials, declaring a public holiday for the provinces and giving generous gifts to everyone.
Esther has officially entered the scene ladies and gents, and it looks like his Majesty, King Xerxes is showing a different side than in the first chapter of the book of Esther.
He has gone from being a childish, misogynist, to a love-struck, admirer.
My single ladies, this blog post is especially for you!
Gentlemen, I implore you to take note.
It is said that the answers to life’s questions can be found in the Bible; studying this part of the Bible gives us some insight on recognizing your King. So without further ado:
Ladies, Number 1: Your King will love you “more than any … other young [woman]”.
Sure, he can express it verbally, but words can only be flimsy without proof. Look to his actions. Do his words and deeds match, or do they juxtapose?
“Well Ebun, what does ‘love’ look like??”
I am soo elated that you asked!
God first showed us what true love is by choosing to give up His only Son to die for us all on the cross, even when we are undeserving.
Love is NOT what the world thinks. As much as media today expresses love as flowers, sugary treats, and the inability to breathe, eat, or simply function physically, sadly, that isn’t the true meaning of love.
If a man professes his love for you, remember those date nights when he quietly sat and waited for you for about 3 hours while you “quickly [got] ready in a few minutes”, without a fuss. In fact, he rained compliments on you as he opened your car door, and held your purse.
Recount the blind arguments you both engaged in, and even though you were in the wrong, he gently took into consideration your point of view to put the arguments to rest in your favor, and may have even apologized for having you all riled up.
Think back to the time you got that promotion or big break, and he not only celebrated with you, but stood by you to be sure your success is sustained.
Ask yourself, whenever a dispute breaks out between both of you, is a scoreboard of each other’s wrongs usually erected? When false testimony jeopardizes your reputation, is he hesitant to defend your honor and strive for the truth? Is he able to tough it out with you when things are rough?
This is critical because love is patient, kind, trusting, humble, respectful, forgiving, fair, hopeful, and persistent. He doesn’t have to have all these qualities perfectly – that would be the Lord himself – but if he shows tangible progress in these qualities, and daily works at them, he truly loves you with all of his heart.
“He set the royal crown on her head and declared her queen instead of Vashti”
Number 2: Your King will not hesitate to make you his Queen.
His world and the people in it, will undoubtly know that you are his Queen, his lady, his woman. It should be so obvious that no one should question your compatibility.
“To celebrate the occasion, he gave a great banquet in Esther’s honor for all his nobles and officials, declaring a public holiday for the provinces and giving generous gifts to everyone.”
Number 3: Your king will regard you as a woman worthy of honor and high regard, not a woman worthy of shame.
In the previous chapter, we read that King Xerxes lavishly spent money on pleasing himself and his guests at the expense of Vashti’s honor. This very same King Xerxes lavishly celebrates his new bride without daring to taint her honor. In fact, he goes above and beyond to please his guests by showering them with presents upon presents, including a holiday.
I mean, c’mon! Are we even talking about the same guy here?!
Xerxes was very careful to make sure that Esther’s dignity was protected, and her heart guarded, all while celebrating her.
In response, queen Esther showcased her humble upbringing. She carried herself with dignity while being submissive to the King’s will. While other women donned extraneous clothing and jewelries to magnify their outer beauty in order to entice the King, her confidence was her inner beauty, which made her attractive to the King.
To my beautiful single ladies, know that you are too darn gorgeous and ‘foiiine’ for words. The best beauty treatment you can give yourself is a stroke of gentleness, a dab of humility, and a spray of don’t-worry.
Let that inner beauty shine through and watch your King come clinging to you.